"The human heart takes good things like a successful career, love, material possessions, even family, and turns them into ultimate things. Our hearts deify them as the center of our lives, because we think they can give us significance and security, safety and fulfillment if we attain them. Something is safe for us to maintain in our lives only if it has really stopped being an idol. That can happen only when we are truly willing to live without it, when we truly say from the heart: “Because I have God, I can live without you”.
Friday, June 28, 2013
Tim Keller
One of the principles of love- either love for a friend or romantic
love- is that you have to lose independence to attain greater intimacy.
If you want the “freedom" of love- the fulfillment, security, sense of
worth that it brings- you must limit your freedom in many ways. You
cannot enter a deep relationship and still make unilateral decisions or
allow your friend or lover no say in how you live your life. To
experience the joy and freedom of love, you must give up your personal
autonomy… For a love relationship to be healthy there must be a mutual
loss of independence. It can’t just be one way. Both sides must say to
the other, “I will adjust to you. I will change for you. I’ll serve you
even though it means a sacrifice for me."
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